Melissa's Idea Garden

We got up yesterday morning, got all of our belongings together, checked out and headed to the hospital. Daniel still wasn't sure what he was going to do, but Bruce, Jack, Katrina and I were going to head for home after lunch.

I left the kids and my stuff in the waiting room, then headed towards Tess room and immediately knew something had changed. Her door was closed and the nurse getting ready to go into her room was suited up in a blue gown and gloves. The head nurse approached me and told me that Tess had been diagnosed with MRSA. My heart sank to my toes.

Sharon came out of the room and filled me in. The news was not as bad as my first thoughts. Turns out the ER doctor was on the ball. When he saw the blisters on Tess, he felt MRSA was a very real possibility and put her on triple antibiotics that would help her other infections as well as the MRSA. So, by the time we found out she had MRSA, she was on her way to recovery. I wish we had known that they were thinking MRSA was a possibility. We were all good about washing hands when we entered the room, but didn't know we needed to wash them when we left. None of us have open wounds, so hopefully we will all be okay.

Her doctor came in and was much more positive today. He said she will need another 7 - 10 days of strong antibiotics and she would be receiving 2 pints of blood later in the day. He said her white blood cell count is coming back up, her color is good, her vitals are good. He told us she could go home with hospice (we are also setting up round the clock nursing for when hospice isn't there). Tess applauded when she found out she could go home. We were told that radiation is not an option (Tess wanted to know). The tumor is so deep inside of her that the rads needed to reach it would destroy her bowel in the process. There will be no more CAT scans or horrible gook that she had to drink before them. Dr. Franco told us he didn't do tests for the sake of curiosity. There is nothing else that can be done for the cancer, but we still have time with Tess and for that we are so very grateful. Our goal is for her to be as comfortable as she can be and to have the best quality of life she can during her time remaining.

Tess has survived against amazing odds. She was admitted barely alive. She had a fever of 103, her blood pressure was 220/130, one 50% functioning kidney (she lost one years ago), pneumonia, a urinary tract infection, MRSA and liposarcoma of the liver with no white blood cells or platelets because of recent chemotherapy. We left her with the infections under control and the hope that she will be able to go home with Johnny (their greatest wish) in a week with hospice and 24 hour nurses.

Thank you, Lord. Thank you for giving us some more precious time with Tess. Thank you for the possibility that she and Johnny can be at home together as they wish. Thank you for Sharon. If not for her, Tess wouldn't be here today. And we are so grateful that she is on the same page as we are as how we want to see all this played out and that she is so willing to help since she lives here.

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Last week, my mother let me know that the 92 Methodist Churches in this district would be meeting at Jefferson Forest High School this past Monday to put together 100,000 meals that would be going to Haiti. This was done with the help of the organization Stop Hunger Now. The next day, she emailed and told me they were going to try and put together 140,000 meals. The Methodist Churches were looking for volunteers and donations.

Monday at 3 pm, everyone convened at JFHS. The count on volunteers? 2500 plus people - some who came from as far away as Richmond. There were so many people that they had to ask people in the packing lines to leave so that new people could come in and have a chance to volunteer. At one point, they were putting together 10,000 bags in 10 minutes. When all was said and done, 210,000 bags had been put together.

30,000 meals were already put together at a warehouse in the area.
The 'ingredients' for 140,000 meals were brought to JFHS.
210,00 meals were made.

God is indeed still in the business of doing miracles.

This slide show will give you an inside view of what the event looked like.

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Today, I learned about a book titled Crazy Love. I was reading the blog, Be Hands and Feet, of my young friend who is in Uganda helping people less fortunate than most of us. It is an amazing piece that points out that many Christians have forgotten what sharing the love of God means. I have added this book to my Kindle to read during our trip.

I encourage you to take a few minutes and go read her post. And if you have an extra dollar or more, be sure to click the donate button on her page. I can tell you the money is going to a good cause (providing for hungry children, taking care of abandoned children, helping families). Right now, they are trying to raise money for a van for Serving His Children to use.

In one week, she had the following to deliver or do:

• 150 lbs of beans,
• 150lbs of rice,
• 2,000 mangos
• 100 pieces of fire wood
• 10 sick children
• 3 to 5 trips to the clinic
• Lunch for 1,000 hungry children

and apparently, she is doing this on a motorcycle. If we can get 2000 people to donate 5.00 each, that would be enough for a van to be purchased. If you use paypal, be sure to put in the note section that you would like for your donation to go to the purchase of the van.

If you don't use paypal, you can also pay by snail mail.

Serving His Children
1124 Stratford Dr.
Bedford, VA 24523

A lot of times, we don't know if these things are legitimate, but I can promise you that this one is. So, skip your Mocha or Latte one day and make a difference!

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I got this in my email from my Mom today and I liked it so much, I thought I would share it here.

Blue Roses

Why do I always have to be the one that starts to do laundry and there's no
detergent? Well, I guess it was time for me to do my store run, which
included light bulbs, paper towels, trash bags and Clorox. So off I go.

I scurried around the store, gathered up my goodies, and headed for the
checkout counter only to be blocked in the narrow aisle by a young man that
appeared to be about sixteen-years-old. I wasn't in a hurry, so I patiently
waited for the boy to realize that I was there. This was when he waved his
hands excitedly in the air and declared in a loud voice, "Mommy, I'm over
here."

It was obvious now, he was mentally challenged, and also startled as he
turned and saw me standing so close to him, waiting to squeeze by. His
eyes widened and surprise exploded on his face as I said, "Hey Buddy,
what's your name?"

"My name is Denny and I'm shopping with my mother," he responded proudly.
"Wow," I said, "that's a cool name; I wish my name was Denny, but my name
is Hal."

"Hal, like Halloween?" he asked.

"Yes," I answered. "How old are you Denny?"

"How old am I now, Mommy?" he asked his mother as she slowly came over from
the next aisle. "You're fifteen-years-old Denny; now be a good boy and let
the man pass by."

I acknowledged her and continued to talk to Denny for several more minutes
about summer, bicycles and school. I watched his brown eyes dance with
excitement because he was the center of someone's attention. He then
abruptly turned and headed toward the toy section.

Denny's mom had a puzzled look on her face and thanked me for taking the
time to talk with her son. She told me that most people wouldn't even look
at him, much less talk to him. I told her that it was my pleasure and then
I said something I have no idea where it came from, other than by the
prompting of the Holy Spirit.

I told her that there are plenty of red, yellow and pink roses in God's
garden, however, "Blue Roses" are very rare and should be appreciated for
their beauty and distinctiveness. You see, Denny is a Blue Rose and if
someone doesn't stop and smell that rose with their heart and touch that
rose with their kindness, then they've missed a blessing from God.

She was silent for a second, then with a tear in her eye she asked, "Who
are you?"

Without thinking I said, "Oh, I'm probably just a dandelion but I sure love
living in God's garden."

Please the next time you see a BLUE ROSE don't turn your head and walk off,
take the time to smile and say Hello. Because by the grace of GOD this
mother could be you. This could be your child, grandchild, niece, nephew.
What a difference a moment can mean to that person or their family.

From an old dandelion.

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.
Leave the rest to God.

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I know that I haven't been around much lately. I haven't been blogging or reading blogs. I have been feeling very anti computer in 2009 and not interested in being online more than I have to. I was on Facebook for awhile and it was fun for awhile, now I don't want to go there either. Other things are much more interesting to me these days. So, if you are reading this, I hope you are well. We are well, busy and I'm sure at some point, I'll be back on here more regularly.

I do want to share an experience we recently had. Our youth group has been raising funds so they can go to Go Tell Camp this summer. It is a weeklong bible camp and it costs $250.00 for the week. Throughout the year, we have been raising funds. We sold baked goods at Centerfest in September. Took candle orders in November. Had a chili dinner at the church in February and in April, we did a mission/fundraising project. The youth took one day of their spring break and spent 5 hours working at The Daily Bread.

The Daily Bread is a place in Lynchburg which provides one balanced meal a day for anyone who needs it. People come in and are served. They can eat as much as they want. They can also take breads, rolls and cakes home with them when they leave. There is also a phone where they can make calls from and free books to borrow and clothes and a place to get cleaned up. For the fundraiser, the children asked people to sponsor them for the time worked there. It is one of our most successful fundraisers and it is the one that has the most meaning for the children.

We arrived at 9 am. During our time there, we folded napkins around utensils. Unloaded donated bread and drinks. Set up the tables with condiments and napkins. Swept and vacuumed and got ready for the guests to arrive. Once everyone was seated, it was the children's job to serve them. We took the guests plates. We took their drink orders. We refilled plates and drinks as needed and we carried about a dessert tray for them to choose from. The children did such an awesome job. It was a wonderful reminder to me of how when we give them true responsibility, they will rise to the occasion. I worked at a table with a young man. I was being vigilant, but he always seemed to be a step ahead of me. I would see a new guest had come in and I would turn to get a plate to serve them and see that N would already be on his way with the food. At the table next to them, I beamed as the lady in charge complimented the boys on their clean work station (my son was on that team). I watched girls who might complain about doing dishes at home, clean up after complete strangers to make room for another guest. For an hour and a half, these children worked hard and they each came away feeling like for a little while they had been able to make a difference in someone's life.

I had a special moment as well. There was a guest who didn't have arms. He ate by putting his head to his plate and picking up his food with his mouth. He was very self-sufficient, but I kept an eye on him to see if he needed anything. At one point, I noted that he seemed to be having trouble with his drink. I went to ask if I could help and he said he was trying to knock some food off of his face (rice was part of the meal for the day). I told him I would be happy to wipe his mouth for him, if he would like and he let me. As I did this, I asked if he was a veteran and he told me he had fought in Vietnam. I thanked him for his service to our country, and his response was, "You do what you have to". As I looked into this kind man's face, I couldn't help but think about my own father who also was in the service during the Vietnam War. Dad never got sent overseas due to a clerical error, but this man sitting here relying on the kindness of others could just as easily have been my dad. It broke my heart and it made me glad that I was able to be there and provide some assistance to this man.

I know we all live busy lives, but if we all just did one volunteer thing each month, think of the differences would could make in this world.

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I met the Bach family about 14 years ago. We were attending the same church and frankly I thought they were a bit odd. After all, they had many children and they did something called homeschooling. They had home births and didn't do vaccinations. How kooky is that? But they were very nice people and very committed to serving the Lord. As I got to know them, I began to think they weren't so kooky and I credit them for the fact that I homeschool today.

Over the years I have been impressed by the kindness of the children, the way the family reaches out and serves others and their faith and trust in God. The family has a business called Many Blessings Farms and with that business they provide hippotherapy to people who suffer from disabilities such as Autism, Down's Syndrome, and Cerebral Palsy. The children grew up being homeschooled and learning how to serve others. Now the fruit of that upbringing is really showing.

Renee, the second oldest daughter, is 19 and has already spent several months in Uganda doing missions work. In fact while she was there, she didn't just do what she had been sent to do, but came up with a new idea of a way to serve the people there. She started a program for feeding the children. Her idea has grown and now, this 19 year old young lady is heading back for a prolonged stay in Uganda and she has started her own nonprofit organization which will focus on feeding and caring for children. Serving His Children now has a website that will tell you way better than I can about what they plan to do and hope to accomplish. The organization website is brand new and still under construction. But there is also a blog Be Hands and Feet that you can check out.

I know there are a lot of worthy organizations out there, but this one has touched my heart and as I have watched Renee grow up, I know that it is an organization being run for the right reasons. Please take some time to go visit the website. If you can help in anyway, I guarantee you will be blessed as much, if not more, than you are blessing others. I know economically times are tough, but we know nothing of hard times compared to these children.

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I don't watch award shows. I used to when I was a kid. It was neat to see all the stars and to try to figure out who would win. But now I am happy reading the day after report. But this is an award show that I would watch on television...if only it were televised.

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My mom introduced me to some of the best actors when I was growing up - John Wayne, Bob Hope, Jimmy Stewart, Maureen O'Hara, and more. These actors weren't just better at their profession than many actors and actresses are today, but they were real people who didn't jump up on a pedastal because of their profession. Instead, they took their positions seriously and gave back to this wonderful country we live in. I always heard about performers like Bob Hope going overseas and performing for the troops and how much that meant to the troops overseas.

Nowadays, so many actors and actresses that 'show' an interest in the troops seem more interested in photo ops and good press for themselves than actually giving support to the troops. You can tell this by the fact that you see them regularly on the evening news. But the true patriot is the one who works tirelessly for his country without bringing attention to himself. Gary Sinise is just such a patriot. I was unaware until I read an article today of just all he does and has done to support our troops and the people of Iraq.

I hope you enjoy reading this heartwarming story of a man who loves his country!

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This came into my email box today. I wanted to share!

The story has been published of a little girl caught in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity, all of which seemed to be coming to a head on Christmas Eve.

Dad, loaded down with bundles, seemed to have an even greater number of worries. Mom, under the pressure of getting ready for the great occasion, had yielded to tears several times during the day.

The little girl herself, trying to help, found that she was always under-foot, and somtimes adult kindness to her wore thin.

Finally, near tears herself, she was hustled off to bed.

There kneeling to pray the Lord's Prayer before finally tumbling in, her mind and tougue betrayed her and she prayed, "Forgive us our Christmases as we forgive those who Christmas against us."

Perhaps the little girl's prayer was not such a great mistake.

Too often we leave out the Christ of Christmas. Too often He is crowded out of our busy lives. Remember, the best gift won't be found in a box but in a person.

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I challenge you to read this book! If you have not already read it, put it on your Christmas list or check it out from your library. But it is a book you will enjoy reading and that will have a profound impact on your life (in my humble opinion).

I read about this book a couple of months ago on a blog somewhere. I don't remember where, but I put it on my Shelfari as a book I wanted to read. I have a stack I have been working through and not much time to read, so I hadn't gotten to The Shack yet, but a couple of weeks ago, my mother-in-law asked me if I had heard of The Shack. I told her I had and I wanted to read it. She said she was just about finished with it and would like to see what I thought of it, so she mailed it to me. I finished it today.

It is an amazing story! It is the story of a dad's anguish over the brutal kidnapping and death of his daughter and how that anguish grows inside of him...cutting him off from others and more importantly from God. But he has an amazing experience where he gets to meet God and he learns more about the true nature of God, Jesus and the Holy Ghost than he had ever experienced before. By the end of the book, he is a changed being and I believe any who read it and really think of what it says will be changed as well.

Continue reading "Book Review: The Shack by William P. Young" »

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I did a tribute two years ago for Lt. John A. Crisci as part of the 2,996 project.

Today, the children and I are watching the 9/11 ceremonies and talking about how that day changed so much. That will be our school work for today as we remember the innocent lives lost and the sacrifices made 7 years ago today.

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....one we should all remember.

My mother-in-law sent this to me in the mail and I have checked it out on Snopes. It is a true and inspiring story.

Back in September 2005, on the first day of school, Martha Cothren, s social studies teacher at Robinson High School in Little Rock, Arkansas, did something not to be forgotten. On the first day of school, with the permission of the school superintendent, the principal and the building supervisor, she removed all of the desks out of her classroom. When the first period kids entered the room they discovered that there were no desks. Looking around, confused, they asked:

"Mrs. Cothern, where are our desks?"

Continue reading "A Social Studies Teacher Teaches a Valuable Lesson" »

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One of my favorite bible stories is the one of The Prodigal Son Luke 15: 11-32. It is a story of redemption and promise that pretty much everyone can relate to and find hope in.

I have been reading through The DK Illustrated Family Bible. I got this Bible years and years ago. The main reason I got it was to record births, marriages and deaths in. It is illustrated and I thought it would be good to read passages to the children. It does not contain every word of the Bible, but it does contain illuminations. There are sidebars which give the reader insight into the culture and more depth on what some of the passages mean.

Today, I read the parable of The Prodigal Son. And I learned several things that I didn't know before which make the story even more meaningful and enjoyable. So I wanted to share.

Continue reading "The Prodigal Son - Some Extra Information" »

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"...This is my beloved, and this is my friend..." Song of Solomon 5:16b

From Revive Our Hearts

Friends can be completely honest with each other, but friendships are strained when truth is not spoken in love. How are you speaking to your beloved? Are you so "used" to him that you don't appreciate the wonder of his friendship? That is your challenge today.

The way to have and be a good friend is to cultivate and celebrate the relationship. As you end this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge," celebrate your friendship with your husband. Get alone and reflect on your beloved friend. Write him a letter, listing the qualities you admire and appreciate about him. If you are creative with words, write and frame a poem about him.

Continue reading "Day 30: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" »

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While I wouldn't be able to understand or read this scroll, I would love to see it in person. What an amazing piece of history...a copy of the Book of Isaiah written about 1900 years ago!

You can see a video of the scroll here

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"A prudent man foresees evil, and hides himself; the simple pass on, and are punished." Prov. 27:12

We live in a world of temptations. And they are not all 'wicked' on the surface, but can lead the way into wrong behaviors. One thing that Daniel has never done is go out with the 'boys'. He has a friend that a couple of times a year they go to the movies together, but he prefers to spend his spare time here. His concern is that if we were to spend regular time with a group of others that we might be tempted to stray. For instance, the guys go out for an evening at a bar and playing pool. Well, while there, gals are around, alcohol is around and one thing can lead to another. He prefers to stay away from such temptations.

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"The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom, and before honor is humility." Prov. 15:33

From Revive Our Hearts

Sometimes, when we just "know" we are right and our husbands are wrong, it takes great humility to honor them. It is difficult to speak well of our husbands when our own hearts are puffed up with pride.

The humility that comes from a right relationship with God - the humility that comes when a man is willing to listen to God and be taught from His Word - is indeed a beautiful quality. Jesus was an example of this kind of humility when he was willing to submit to His Father's will (John 6:38; Matt. 26:39).

Humility is a hard stance for most of us to take. We prefer to believe we know what's what and that we are correct. And to admit that we might be mistaken or not know what's best makes us feel like children or stupid. But true wisdom comes from being able to accept that others can know what is best for us and can have a better understanding of where we are than we do ourselves.

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"Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in the LORD." Ps. 31:24

It is easy to go along with the flow. To not stand up and say what you think, to not stand out. But belief in God and what our Lord, Jesus Christ stands for, demands that we trust in him and that we don't take the easy way, but the right way. There are plenty of Christians who proclaim their faith, who have prejudices, who ignore the Commandment that Jesus left us with. And that Commandment is to love God above all and to love one another. Jesus supped with prostitutes and tax collectors. He pointed out that all sins have an equal footing in the eyes of God (to think lustful thoughts is as wrong as to actually act them out). But so many Christians judge. They place themselves above others because they feel like their sins are not as bad as others.

Daniel has this kind of courage. He doesn't go with the flow, but is instead outspoken in what he believes. He is flawed and openly admits it and he doesn't believe that his flaws are worse or better than anyone else. He believes God put him here to make a difference and he does his best to rise to this calling. He inspires me to have courage and to not let others sway what I believe to be right.

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"And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men." Luke 2:52

From Revive Our Hearts

Jesus led a balanced life. He grew mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. If your husband is out of balance - focusing on one area to the exclusion of the others - consider whether there are things you can do to help restore or create balance in his life. Can you encourage times for sports or exercise? Keep the children quiet for a study time? Invite friends over for dinner? Stimulate his mind?

Be sure you are working toward balance in your own life, as well. Be an example!

Balance is something we all struggle to attain. And in these busy times, it seems to be really, really difficult. It is hard to find time to be learning, exercising, spending time with your family, spending time with God....but we need to all strive for that. And not just personal balance, but balance between husband and wife. I have no good suggestions for how to do that. We just need to be aware and do the best we can.

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"...seek peace, and pursue it." Ps. 34:14b

"You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You." Is. 26:3

When my husband and I first got together back in 1990, and in the years that followed, we did not live in a peaceful household. We were young, stressed by finances, I became an instant mom as he had two sons from a previous marriage and we took custody of them. We argued about everything from finances to child raising. It wasn't a pretty time, but we stuck through it and grew because of it.

Continue reading "Day 25: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" »

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"And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord." Eph. 6:4

From Revive Our Hearts

Children can be quite a challenge to the marriage relationship. A wise wife will support her husband's leadership in the home as much as possible, and will praise him for his fathering skills. Negativity makes a man feel like a failure, and may make him to want to give up.

Does your husband discipline your children wisely? Does he show them love and encourage them? Does he take an interest in their activities and dreams? Does he spend time with them? Does he take part in developing their character? Praise him for these important life skills.

Continue reading "Day 24: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" »

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"Let your speech always be with grace..." Col. 4:6a

"In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works..." Titus 2:7a

Maybe it is the nature of human beings, or maybe it is the nature of wives, but we tend to focus on the negative features of those closest to us. We treat our spouses worse than we would treat a friend or an acquaintance. How many friends would we have if we were always nagging them about how they don't do enough or how they don't help us the way we think they should?

Why then do we treat the loves of our life, the men we have spoken vows to honor and love for a lifetime with any less honor and love. We turn blind eyes to the faults of our friends, we try to lift them up, to aide them as we may. But our own spouses, we do not follow this same code of love and care.

Today(and everyday), concentrate on your spouse's excellent qualities. Lift him up by praising those and be there to help him where he is lacking (for instance...if your dh is unorganized, then you help him by keeping schedules and paperwork together and easily accessible.)

Daniel desires to make his mark on the world, to help others, to spend time with his family. He prizes honesty, creativity, and people's desire to better themselves. He loves to travel and does what he can to make sure all of us get that opportunity whenever possible. He doesn't go out with the boys, spend endless hours watching sporting events, or otherwise try to find ways to spend time away with his family. Instead, it grieves him to be away from us.

No, he is not perfect. There are things I wish he did, that he does not, but that is not his fault. That is the fault of my own expectations. It is my goal to spend more time attending to his fabulous qualities just like I would any friend.

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"Let your speech always be with grace..." Col. 4:6a

From Revive Our Hearts.com-

Focus today on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your community. In this challenge to encourage, ask: "If all my family and friends knew about my husband came from a filter of what I've said about him, what would they think of my husband?"

Don't forget: you are always criticizing - or encouraging - before an audience. God hears your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your speech be always seasoned with grace.

I think this is one that we as wives, should pay attention to. How we speak of our spouses to others influences how others see our spouses, and in all likelihood, how they see us. We must be certain we aren't building ourselves up by tearing them down.

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Video from National Geographic: Greensburg, Kansas was basically destroyed last May when a F-5 tornado touched down. Today they are making lemonade out of lemons. They could have given up and moved away, instead, they are rebuilding their town, and they are rebuilding Green! Way to go, citizens of Greensburg! You are a shining example to us all!

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"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you." Matt. 6:33

From ReviveOurHearts.com

If we are living in light of eternity, everything we think, do or say is seen from an eternal perspective. We will someday give an account for our failure to speak words of love and encouragement. Determine today that your words will be sweet and helpful.

So often we have unrealistic expectations of the people around us. Our husbands, our friends, our family. We expect them to meet all of our needs and then we are disappointed when they do not. But we are the ones setting them up for failure. A deep love and trust of God is the only thing that can satisfy all of our needs. When we focus on Him, the rest of our lives will become more loving, forgiving and wonderful. When we stop expecting those around us to be perfect, it frees us up to try to love them the way God loves us without burdening our love with the failures that we perceive.

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"And be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you." Eph. 4:32

from Revive Our Hearts

It's time for some heart examination. As you continue in this 30-day challenge, have you found any roots of bitterness that are contaminating your relationship with your husband? Do you understand that as long as you are unwilling to forgive your husband - by God's grace and in His power - you will not be able to encourage him? Your own resentment will keep getting in the way. Now is the time to deal with any unforgiving attitudes. Forgive him, even as God has forgiven you.

Is your husband a forgiving man? Does he keep short accounts of your problems? Express your thankfulness for such a man.

This is something I definitely should work on. My memory tends to be way longer than it should be and I have been known to keep accounts that I shouldn't. Daniel has a much shorter memory of my transgressions. One of the most detrimental things to any relationship is when you start arguing and then you bring up things long done and over.

If this is a problem for you, pray that God will help to change your ways in this area.

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10 My lover is radiant and ruddy,
outstanding among ten thousand.
11 His head is purest gold;
his hair is wavy
and black as a raven.

12 His eyes are like doves
by the water streams,
washed in milk,
mounted like jewels.

13 His cheeks are like beds of spice
yielding perfume.
His lips are like lilies
dripping with myrrh.

14 His arms are rods of gold
set with chrysolite.
His body is like polished ivory
decorated with sapphires. [a]

15 His legs are pillars of marble
set on bases of pure gold.
His appearance is like Lebanon,
choice as its cedars.

16 His mouth is sweetness itself;
he is altogether lovely.
This is my lover, this my friend,
O daughters of Jerusalem.

- Song of Solomon 5:10-16

When was the last time you said these things or similar things to your husband? As women, we love poetry, but we forget that our husbands can be moved by words of love as well.

Why don't you write a poem to your hubby today? Or share a favorite poem or quote that makes you think of him.

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"You will show me the path of life. In your presence is fullness of joy...Happy are the people whose God is the LORD!" Ps. 16:11a; 144:15b

"A merry heart does good like medicine..." Prov. 17:22a

From Revive Our Hearts.Com

It's hard to criticize others when we are enjoying their company. Instead of speaking negatively to your husband today, enjoy him! Encourage him! As you experience fullness of joy with God, share some of that joy with your husband.

This is a wonderful part of who he is, and a great strength. Let him know that you appreciate his joyfulness and his playful spirit. Find opportunities to join him in positive play times.

This is so true. If we are busy searching for the good and happy, we will find it hard to spend much time finding fault. And the other effect of this is that when we are busy looking for the good and happy, we feel good and happy ourselves which in turns helps to promote a happy household.

Daniel often encourages me to do things that are fun. Either playing a game of darts in the yard, listening to some music, singing some Karaoke, or taking a boat ride. These are just some of the ways that he brings fun into our home.

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"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy Oneis understanding." Prov. 9:10

Daniel is the visionary in our family. He has dreams and hopes for us that has often led us into incredible adventures. It was his dreams and plans that has enabled us to travel so many places. That has enabled us to purchase 10 acres of land. And that has him with a patent under his belt.

Neither of us always makes the best choices, but I am grateful that he has dreams that pull us forward.

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"And the LORD God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." Genesis 2:18

Truth be known, it is not good for man or woman to be alone. We have strengths and weaknesses that complement one another. This is why children need a mom and a dad. We can provide them balance between the two of us.

We had a cookout today. Daniel's birthday is tomorrow and his mom and stepfather are here from Florida. Both of Daniel's older sons and their significant others came with them. Daniel's sister and her family came. Daniel's uncle and wife came. We had a lovely time and Daniel helped me quite a bit. He helped prepare the food, he cooked some yummy hamburgers and hotdogs and he helped to clean up the grill afterwards.

We had a lovely visit with family and the weather was perfect.

I am pooped and grateful.

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"But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ..." 2 Pet. 3:18a

From ReviveOurHearts.com:

Sometimes we live so close to our spouse that we fail to see him as others do; we only see our husband's faults. But take a step back. Perhaps he is growing spiritually in ways you have failed to appreciate. How can you encourage his growth in a fresh, new way? Remember - your husband is accountable to God for his spiritual development. You are accountable to God to encourage and not hinder that growth.

Can you identify an area of spiritual strength in your husband? Does he pray or read his Bible regularly? Does he like to read about or discuss spiritual matters? Does he go to church with you? Is he a spiritual leader? What do others say about him? If you can identify a specific area, praise him for that. If not, pray earnestly that God will work in his heart, and watch for signs of spiritual growth in the future.

Daniel knows a great deal about what is in the Bible. He grew up very churched in a Baptist church. He now prefers not to attend church. We have interesting conversations about religion and we look for different things in the churches that we attend.

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"The righteous man walks in his integrity..." Prov. 20:7a

Every week there are news reports about men who gave in to temptations and compromised what they said they believed. We hear countless reports about dishonest business dealings, hidden infidelity, and hypocritical leaders. It's so easy to focus on these things and ignore those who are being honest, faithful and genuine. As you continue in the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge," determine to look for ways that your husband stands against the culture.

Continue reading "Day 14: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" »

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"I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me." Song of Solomon 7:10

Today's challenge from from ReviveOur Hearts is regarding intimacy in marriage. This is not one that I am going to discuss here in my blog.

Some things the challenge suggests are to focus on where you are and to praise your husband for his skills.

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"With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love." Eph. 4:2

We tend to say the most hateful things to the ones we are closest to. Perhaps because we expect them to put up with it. Perhaps it's because we see them more than anyone else and we simply can't hide our 'bad' side forever. And we are human. We are going to lash out when we are having a bad day, and unfortunately those closest to us bear the brunt of this.

However, it is our job to minimize this behavior and to apologize when we fail. Sometimes, I find myself thinking about all of my husband's faults. And I find myself thinking about how lucky he is to have someone like me who is easy to get along with and loving and cleans up after herself and...

Continue reading "Day 12: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" »

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"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." Eph. 5:22

This verse is one that throws many women into a tizzy. They talk of how archaic it is and how it means women should become doormats. It doesn't mean that at all. It simply means that we are to respect our husbands. Husbands are supposed to put our well being above their own.

Check out these verses:

28 In this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, 29 for no man ever hated his own flesh; but he feeds and cherishes it, as the Christ also does the congregation, 30 because we are members of his body. - Eph 5:28-29

Continue reading "Day 11: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" »

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"Behold you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!..." Song of Solomon 1:16a

Remember what it was that first drew you to your husband?

When I met Daniel, I thought he was extremely attractive. Shoulder length black wavy hair, beautiful blue eyes, a charming smile. And we hit it off right away. We had a lovely conversation and we shared interest in things like Star Trek. The first few weeks we dated, he would call me, long distance and talk for an hour (this was back in the day when long distance was 25 cents a minute! He asked to read (and actually read) poetry I had written. He was full of fun and loved to do interesting things. He was spontaneous, kind and friendly.

Now, 18 years later, the hair is no longer black or long. But the eyes are still blue. We still have common interests combined with 18 years of memories. Of obstacles overcome, problems resolved, joys shared, dreams attained, love, laughter, and tears. We have two beautiful children as a result of our joining.

Continue reading "Day 10: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" »

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"...be swift to hear, slow to speak..." James 1:19b

I have always been told it is better to be a good listener instead of someone who talks all of the time. This is something true not just in marriage, but in friendships. I mean, how boring would it be for everytime someone visited you that all they did was talk, talk, talk....

I don't know about you, but I also have a tendency to only half listen. The other half or me is either busy thinking of what I am going to say in response or thinking about my 'to do' list. I have been working hard this last year to be a better listener to everyone. When I get on the phone, I turn away from my computer and do something like wash dishes or crochet. This keeps my hands busy and helps my mind to focus.

Continue reading "Day 9: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" »

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"...but who can find a faithful man?" Prov. 20:6b

Faithfulness is a wonderful but rare quality today, especially in regard to marriage. Do
you understand how important this quality is? Your challenge is to continue to root out
all negative speaking, and plant seeds of encouragement instead. You may be amazed
at what will grow.

Contemporary culture often entices men to be unfaithful to their wedding vows and
spiritual commitments. Appreciate your husband's faithfulness - how he is loyal to you.
Let him know that you are glad he has "stick-to-it-iveness" in your marriage. Appreciate
his faithfulness to God. (If you have an unfaithful husband, this is a difficult area for you.
Pray, speak the truth in love, remain faithful yourself, and discover ways to encourage
faithfulness in your mate. The Bible says that husbands may "...be won by the conduct
of their wives" [1 Pet. 3:1]. You may also want to seek counsel from a mature, godly
individual or couple.) - Revive Our Hearts

I am blessed to be married to a faithful husband.

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"Do not overwork to be rich; because of your own understanding, cease!...for riches certainly make themselves wings..." Prov. 23:4-5

"That I may cause those who love me to inherit wealth, that I may fill their treasuries." Proverbs 8:21

Money is the root of much marital discord. Ask yourself, "Am I being negative toward my husband in the area of finances?" Determine not to speak evil of your husband in this area. Discover ways to encourage and help him instead.

If he is weak in this area, encourage any good decisions that he does make. Perhaps you can help him, if he's open to the idea, by organizing financial files or providing other practical assistance. Or, if he wants you to handle the finances, ask for his input before you make decisions that will affect him. - Revive Our Hearts

Money has often been a source of discord in our family. We deal with it better these days than we did when we were younger. We used to have terrible arguments. Daniel has made some great choices. Last year, we had money to visit Australia which is something we both have long wanted to do. But he thought about it and decided it would be better if we spent the money on paying off a debt. We don't always make the best financial decisions, but we are doing better and working together always helps.

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"...whatever ye do, do all to the glory of God." 1 Cor. 10:31b

Do you recognize and appreciate your husband's creativity? Or do you criticize and
demean his efforts? Instead of negativity, determine to be positive. Perhaps you can
help your husband see that his efforts are an opportunity to glorify God.

Make his day...Praise his accomplishments in public, while he is listening. -- Revive Our Hearts

With my husband away, praising him where he can hear is tough. But I know from my own personal experience that there is nothing better than when someone compliments me in front of others. He will be home tonight and I will make sure to remember the suggestion for today.

There are so many things that he does well. I particuarly love to hear him play the piano and to see the photographs he has taken. I was also very impressed with his commitment and the thoroughness with which he obtained his private pilot's license. He worked really hard at that and went the extra mile with extra studies and taking lessons that weren't required in aerobatics.

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"Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for
necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers." Eph. 4:29

Another way to describe the positive side of this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge" is
by using the word "edify," which means, "to build up." Negative comments only
discourage and tear down. Positive comments encourage and build.

Do you praise your husband to his relatives, and yours? Does your husband's mother
know how much you love him? How about your dad? Perhaps you can drop a word of
praise into a conversation or letter. Be creative in letting your relatives know that you
respect your husband, love him, and support him - in spite of whatever flaws and
weaknesses he may have. - Revive Our Hearts

I learned this lesson the hard way. Early on in our relationship, I was too open with my mother about my complaints and unhappinesses. My mother still holds those early times against my husband. And it is something that is hard to undo, once done. When I speak to my mother-in-law, I never complain or fuss about my husband. I also do work at telling people the good things my husband does and keeping my complaints to myself or talking them over with him.

It is important for all of us to remember that if we think 'bad' thoughts in our heart, that they will rule the way we act. That's why I believe Jesus said that for a man to even look at a woman was the same as having an affair with her. I think he was trying to show us how powerful our thoughts are.

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"...let him labor, working with his hands what is good..." Eph. 4:28

We are all accountable for the things we say, both negative and positive words. Have
you embraced the challenge to speak only positive things to your husband and to others
about him?

If your husband is out of work, unable to work, or refuses to work, you'll need to be more
creative. Praise him for a character quality that you see in him that would be a vital part
of a successful career - such as persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind,
organizational skills, good with people, good listener, determination, etc. from Revive Our Hearts.com

I try to listen to my hubby when he talks about his work. Because he does computer stuff, sometimes what he talks about goes over my head. Daniel is a hard worker and sometimes works way too hard. When he gets into a project, he focuses on it and it is hard to get him to take a break and do anything else.

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"...love suffers long, and is kind..." 1 Cor. 13:4

"And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ
Jesus." Phil. 4:19

From today's challenge:

"Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider your Encouragement Challenge,
determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband.
Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement.

If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank
him for his kindness and consideration. Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to
be both tough and tender."

This week, we are supposed to be getting a new sidewalk. We have one made of white rock, but the rock tends to slip under foot and with my knee that has gotten a bit temperamental in its old age, the rock puts more strain on it. So Daniel is having a concrete sidewalk put in to take away that hazard for me.

Thanks, sweetie!

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"...through love serve one another." Gal. 5:13b

Today's challenge was to find ways that my husband is serving me and my family. This is not a hard thing to do, though sometimes, I lose sight of what he does and don't feel it is enough. I am trying to do better.

My husband is currently serving us by working away from home. He is working in Illinois to make the money to support our family and to pay our past bills. He leaves his home and his family for days on end. He eats a lot of fast food, puts up with a lot of travel woes, and goes to sleep and wakes up alone.

Other ways he serves us is by being willing to help me achieve whatever goals I set for myself. He encourages me to keep learning and he reminds me not to put myself on the back burner. He works so I can homeschool our children. He broadens my horizons. He plays with the children. He calls from Illinois to talk to them. He listens to what they have to say.

Thanks, Sweetie!

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Jen is taking the 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge, and so I thought I would join her. I need to focus more on the positives of my husband and encouraging him instead of letting the daily grind and small frustrations be the source of my thoughts of him and actions towards him.

“The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does
him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Prov. 31:11-12

Daniel is working on a business idea that I helped him with over the internet a bit last night. He is in Illinois working. I just sent him an email with some ideas and told him that I loved him.

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Clarence and Maymie Vail were married in 1925 in Hugo, MN. Today he is 101 and she is 99 and they have been married for 83 years. Isn't that absolutely awesome!

Read the rest of the story at MSNBC and find out what their secret for such a long lived marriage is.

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I received this story in my email box from a friend. It struck a chord with me and I wanted to share. May it bless you today!

Malachi 3:3 says: "He sits as a refiner and purifier of silver."

This verse puzzled some women in a Bible study and they wondered what this statement meant about the character and nature of God.

One of the women offered to find out the process of refining silver and get back to the group at their next Bible Study.

That week, the woman called a silversmith and made an appointment to watch him at work. She didn't mention anything about the reason for her interest beyond her curiosity about the process of refining silver.

As she watched the silversmith, he held a piece of silver over the fire and let it heat up. He explained that in refining silver, one needed to hold the silver in the middle of the fire where the flames were hottest as to burn away all the impurities.

Continue reading "Malachi 3:3" »

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If you are visiting my blog, but you haven't visited Scribbit, I would like to encourage to go visit. She has a lot of great posts, recipes and crafts and she shares about Alaska. But perhaps, one of her neatest features is the Write Away contest she has each month. And this month's winner was a winner in more ways than one.

The theme was about love and her story "The Lime Popsicle" is guaranteed to warm your heart and dampen your eyes.

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During Bloggy Giveaways I won this beautiful Bible tote bag from Elaine at Inspirational Christian Stories, Poems, Gifts

This beautiful and durable bag arrvied yesterday and I am so excited. I am currently filling in at my church's Awanas group for a gal who is out having a baby and this tote will be perfect for carrying my Awanas items in.

Elaine is a work at home mom who is in the business of helping others to spread inspiration. Think about it, when you give a friend a gift with a bible verse on it or you carry a purse with scripture on it or drink from an inspirational coffee cup at work, you are opening up the way to witness to others. I would encourage you to support a WAHM and to increase your role in spreading the Good News by shopping at Elaine's Inspirational Gift Gallery.

Remember, while we all may wear our crosses to church on Sunday and carry our inspirational bible covers to church, it is important to show those signs of our belief in our everyday life. So if someone has a question, we are a beacon to invite them to learn more about our Savior. If we don't have any outward appearance of our belief, then we lose that opportunity to reach out to others who might otherwise approach us.

God bless!

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I would have thought shopping was out of people's systems by now, but the stores were packed today! So everywhere we went there was a line. Walmart was the first line we stood in (after spending an hour traipsing around the store). And while I was standing there I gave the kids each 50 cents to go spend in the game room while I waited. At that moment, I saw the red stone that was in my change purse.

A month or so ago, the pastor did a children's moment on we can use things to help us start off a witnessing moment. He gave each of the children a blood red stone and told them they could carry it in their pocket or change purse. Then he said, when you are paying for something, that red stone will be there and perhaps you will be asked what it is. You can tell the person that it is a reminder of Jesus that you carry with you. A reminder of the ultimate sacrifice that he made for you. Our pastor also made these stones available to the adults in the congregation.

So I put one in my wallet and today while I was standing in line, getting out my gift card and coupon and debit card, I saw that red stone. I took it out and held it in my hand and thought about what it represented to me. Then I looked at the long line I was standing in and the line beside me and I prayed for each person in that line and for the cashiers as well. I prayed for their general well being, for God to touch their hearts and to bless them in 2008. I prayed for patience, good humor, and love for each of them. And as I looked at each person, if there was something I noticed, I would add that into my prayer. Like the lady who had three children and was looking tired. Or the woman who seemed like she was in such a hurry.

It was a wonderful way to spend my time waiting in line. I highly recommend it!

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I received this prayer in my email box today and I found it to be a great reminder. I hope you will too.

Continue reading "A Prayer That Reminds Us To Not Be Judgmental" »

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Laura at Laura Williams' Musings tagged me for this Carded Meme. I am always looking for fun blogging material and with the extra twist on this, I couldn't resist. I strongly believe in the power of prayer and I think this is a wonderful way we can support one another.

Ronie Kendig altered this CARDED meme to include a Spiritual Wish list so we can know how to pray for each other, both spiritually and physically. Isn’t that a great idea?

THE RULES:

1. Each player starts with 5 gifts that they would want for Christmas.
2. People who are "CARDED" need to write their own Blog about their 5 things & post these rules.
3. At the end of your Blog, you need to choose 5 people to get "CARDED" and list their names.
4. Don't forget to leave them a COMMENT telling them they're "CARDED", and to read your Blog.

My Materialistic Gift/Wish List:

1. A new used car to replace mine since it has 180,000 miles and it needs a new engine.
2. Carpet for my den/dining room/living room area
3. New windows that insulate better (we live in a doublewide...bad windows)
4. An exercise bike so I can exercise without hurting my knee
5. To pay off our mortgage

My Spiritual Gift/Wish List:
1. Discipline to maintain a prayer journal and Bible reading time.
2. To stop worrying so much and trust God more.
3. To put God first and seek his will for my life
4. To show my love for my family and friends better and not get so wrapped up in my own problems.
5. More "bravery" to testify about what God had done for me. I get nervous.

I am supposed to tag five others, but most of my bloggy friends are taking off for the holidays and I don't want to add a burden. So if you have read this and feel like sharing your wish lists, please let me know. I will pray that God will work in your life and I appreciate your prayers on my behalf.

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Yesterday in between in between watching movies, the kids and I caught a it of news. We heard about the family of 4 missing in California since Sunday. We heard how the dad and his three kids had headed out to find a Christmas tree (a yearly tradition) and how they had not been heard of since. We learned their truck had been found and that one snow storm had come through and another was on its way. We discovered that they left on this expedition in light coats and t-shirts.

The first thought that came to my mind was a dad gone bad. Unfortunately, we live in a world where a parent comes to the end of their rope and kills their children and themselves. But none of the reports seemed to back this up. I offered up a prayer for this family's safety and prompt discovery.

This morning, I was reading through my RSS feeds and discovered that this family had experienced a Christmas miracle. They had been found before the second storm hit! They were dressed warmer than had been thought and they were huddled together in a culvert. They had gotten turned around as they went looking for a tree and had gotten lost. They were spotted by a pilot who saw the word HELP stomped into the snow! They are all okay and I am praising God this morning for the gift he has given this family!

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I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
'Oh excuse me please' was my reply.

He said, 'Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you.'

We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.


But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.


Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.


When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
'Move out of the way,' I said with a frown.


He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.


While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,


'While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.


Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.


Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.


He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.'


By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.


I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
'Wake up, little one, wake up,' I said.


'Are these the flowers you picked for me?'
He smiled, 'I found 'em, out by the tree.


I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue.'


I said, 'Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way.'
He said, 'Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway.'


I said, 'Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue.'


FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.
But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.


And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?
So what is behind the story?


Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU

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The eighth century was a time of great upheaval in Spain. The Muslims’ invasion of 711 and the emergence of several heretical theologies had wreaked havoc on the orthodox Catholic church, and medieval calculations of world chronology indicated that the end of the world would come in the year 800. It was in this uncertain environment that Beatus, a staunchly orthodox monk from the monastery of San Martín de Turieno in Liébana in northern Spain, compiled the text that would become the basis for some of the most important works of Spanish art ever produced.

Beatus was an abbot who lived in Liebana, northern Spain. In around 776, he wrote his masterpiece, a manuscript describing the apocalypse - the biblical end of the world. The theme was a common one for scholars and religious leaders. Beatus' Apocalypse was an extremely popular version of the story, which was reporduced by monastic communities for their own use. His work was passed down through generations of scholars and there are now 25 surviving copies, produced between the 10th and 13th centuries.

The information for this post came from

History of Art by Kirsten Bradbury

American Federation of Arts

And you can see more images and gather more information of the various surviving Beatus works at Wikipedia and Online Gallery of European Manuscripts

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I know there are those that think the Bible is outdated and has nothing to offer to us today. The ones who believe that have never sat down and read the wisdom that is shared in God's Word. A story about an event that occured 2000 years ago has meaning for us today, particularly over the next few weeks. I was reminded of it this morning in church as we had our opening exercises for Sunday School.

As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, "Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!"

"Martha, Martha,"the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her." John 10:38-41(NIV)

Continue reading "A Timely Reminder From God's Word: Luke 10:38-42" »

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Today I was reading our local weekly paper. On the front page there is a moving tribute from a Gold Star Mother, Debra Booth.

A Gold Star Mother is a mother who has lost a son or daughter in the service of their country. Last October, Booth's son, Josh, was killed while serving in Iraq. He was buried in Bedford, Virginia. This article was originally published in The Boston Globe.

No matter how you feel about the war in Iraq, I urge you to read this tribute. It is heart felt, moving and honoring.

Warning: tissue alert.

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Do you start your day out in The Word of God? Praising Him? Asking Him to help you through your day? Or, like me, do you get wrapped up in trying to run your busy life and forget to rely on God who can lift you up and sustain you during difficult times? I tend to rely on myself when times are tough. I spend more and more time trying to fix the situation and I end up tired, angry, disappointed, and still not on top of things. Anna at Homeschooling in Illinois had a great post for this today that you will want to take a few moments to read.

The next post I read as I continued through my RSS feeds was from my friend Jaminacema who reminds me that I have nothing to feel guilty about, I am not alone and I am enough! If you struggle with feeling overwhelmed and feeling guilty that you are home all day long, but still not everything gets done (i.e. you are caught up with housework, but schooling is behind or vice versa), then you will want to read this post.

Cindy at Our Family Adventures shares her family's last day together before her husband Brian's long term deployment. I am grateful that I found Cindy who puts a very human face on our soldiers and their families. I pray that God will keep Brian safe and hold this family in the palm of His hand while Brian is away.

And lastly, Scribbit shares a post that I can so relate to. This post is not inspiring like the other three, but one that left me nodding my head in agreement. If taking your husband to the store with you is worse than having your kids along...then you will want to read her post!

Now that I have shared my early morning reads with you, I am going to go spend some time with God and make sure my day is started off the right way! God bless!

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I just want to remind everyone that I have a contest going on in connection with Veteran's Day. It ends tonight at 11 pm. You don't want to miss out on your opportunity to win one of five autographed copies of The Meeting of Anni Adams The Butterfly of Luxembourg.

You need to visit the post above to comment and enter for a chance to win a copy of this wonderful book. Honor a veteran in your life. If you don't want this amazing book for yourself, I can assure you that they would love it! Remember a veteran is not just a person who has fought in the armed services, but it is a person who is wise and experienced. Anni Adams has much to share with you and to teach you. Go find out what and enter today!

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If studies continue to receive the same findings, expect to see this man's face a lot...in places like Times Man of the Year or as a Nobel Prize winner.

Who is he? What has he done? This man is John Kanzius, a former broadcast executive from Pennsylvania. He is 63 and has a background in physics and radio. In his retirement, what has he done with the skills that makes him so remarkable?

He has invented a machine that uses gold or carbon nanoparticles and radio waves to destroy cancer cells in just minutes. Please, take a moment and read that sentence again.

Do you realize how wonderful that is? Do you understand how amazing it is that a man, who has no medical background, other than the fact that he himself is battling cancer, may have created a cure?

My grandmother died from cancer when she was 66 years old. My husband's father died from cancer before he was 50. Children, uncles, aunts, friends, cousins, grandparents, parents, and pets all can die from this insidious disease and if they don't, if they are cancer survivors, the survival often comes through a long and difficult treatment with painful side effects.

Chemotherapy and radiation therapy...lose your hair, lose your appetite, throw up, have your nails grow hard as rock, fear, anxiety, loss of strength, loss of jobs. What if Mr. Kanzius has created a treatment that will save lives and prevent people from having to deal with these kinds of issues? This would be a miracle guided by the hand of God.

Mr. Kanzius' treatment involves injecting the patient with the nanoparticles. The nanoparticles make their way through the body and attach to the cancer cells. Then the patient steps into the machine and after a few moments of being bombarded with the radio waves, the cancer cells are destroyed, completely.

So far they have tested 6 rabbits that had liver tumors. No side effects. Cancer destroyed completely, all other cells left untouched. In two minutes! Of course more tests will be needed before this amazing invention is put into use. The complete article will be in the December issue of Cancer, The American Cancer Society's journal.

Wow!

Hat Tip: MSNBC

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I take voting very seriously. I have never missed a major election and haven't missed many of the 'minor' ones. I have tried to instill the importance of voting in my children. So much so, in fact, that I spent an hour during the last presidential election getting my oldest stepson to vote(his car was broken) even though he was going to vote for 'the other guy.'

A dear friend of mine and I sit on the opposite sides of the political fence. We don't talk about politics too much because we don't want it to harm our friendship. But there are some things we agree on and that is that every single vote counts.

The other day she passed me a couple of articles that I want to share with you. There is still plenty of time for you to get out and vote today! If you aren't registered, make it a top priority this coming year. We are so blessed to live in a country where we can vote for candidates. It is appalling how many people throw that priviledge and right away. Other citizens around the world are dying to have what we take for granted.

Continue reading "Reasons to Vote" »

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We constantly hear some politicians telling us we shouldn't be in Iraq. They tell us we have failed there. The news only shares stories of war and strife and of the citizens of Iraq fighting among themselves and being unable to stop the terrorists. Thank God, the media didn't have the same voice during and after the Revolutionary War, who knows where this country would have ended up.

Here is a a neat article from Military.com.. I am going to print it here because I couldn't say it any better than the press release that the writer shares.

Continue reading "Iraqis Send Donations To California Fire Victims" »

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How does one define the word 'veteran'?

Originally, the word veteran meant "a person of long experience" or skill. Derived from the Latin term veteranus. After the American Revolution the word veteran came to be associated specifically with former soldiers of old age who had fought for independence. As time went on, "veteran" was used to describe any former member of the armed forces or a person who had served in the military.

What is "Veteran's Day"?

World War I, also known as the "Great War" was officially concluded on the 11th hour of the 11th Day of November, at 11 A.M. in 1918. On November 11th of the following year, President Woodrow Wilson declared that day as "Armistice Day" in honor of the peace. (The term armistice means "truce" or the end of wartime hostilities.) This day was marked with public celebrations and a two minute halt to business at 11 AM. In 1921, the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier was dedicated in Arlington Cemetery with a ceremony on November 11th. After this dedication, Armistice Day was adopted in many states and at the federal level as a day to honor veterans. This was made official in 1938 when an act of Congress made Armistice Day a national holiday.

Continue reading "November 11th - Veteran's Day and a Book Giveaway" »

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I was up with the chickens again this week. I didn't plan to get up quite as early, but I left my alarm set to wake me up at 5:00 (which is the time I got up for the yardsale last week). I didn't want to get up until 6:00, but that's just the way it goes. Since it was midnight when I went to sleep, I was a wee bit tired, but a shower woke me up. I did some work, then headed to town to help out with the 4-H bake sale we were doing today. I had made brownies and cookies. I was in charge of bringing tables and I brought signs with prices and I brought a chair to sit in. I didn't bring children, That was my one mistake. I was envisioning four hours of boredom and my daughter, in particular, moaning about when were we going to go home and couldn't I buy her something. I also wasn't sure any of the other moms were going to bring their kids (I should have asked, but it just didn't occur to me...too many other things on my mind right now).

So we went and got set up. We had brownies, peanut butter cookies, 1/2 a lemon pound cake, 4 loaves of bread, cupcakes, muffins, chocolate chip cookies, peanut butter granola bars, and bags of popcorn. We started selling at approximately 9:00 a.m. and sold until 1 p.m. We had signs up that we were selling baked goods to raise money so we could send soldiers in Iraq and Kuwait care packages. We explained to people that we would be sending the care packages to unit leaders who would then pass out the items to those soldiers who didn't get much if anything from home. People opened their hearts and their wallets.

Continue reading "An Awesome Day" »

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Today, I was perusing bloggy land, and I saw someone who has posted about her upset that people were using 'Xmas' in order to take 'Christ' out of the season.

I used to think this was true too. I remember when I was younger and saw Xmas, I didn't think much of it. I just thought it was a way to make the word short. Then when I reached my twenties, I began to feel like it was just what this blogger was saying - an attempt to take 'Christ' out of Christmas. But then I had someone who enlightened me to some history.

The use of 'X' in Xmas is not modern. The origins of the 'X' originates in the fact that the first letter in the Greek word for 'Chirst' is 'chi,' and the Greek letter 'chi' is represented by a symbol similar to the letter 'X' in the modern Roman alphabet. Hence 'Xmas' is indeed a perfectly legitimate abbreviation fo the word 'Christmas' (just as 'Xian' is aso sometimes used as an abbreviation of the word 'Christian').

Are there people who try to use Xmas to take Christ out of Christmas? Sure there are. But the neat thing is that the last laugh is on them! They aren't being as 'vicious' as they think they are. Check out the information at Wikipedia or more on the subject!

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FBI raids illusionist Copperfield’s warehouse - apparently this raid occurred as part of an investigation against Copperfield for sexual misconduct. In the process of the raid, the FBI seized a computer and $2 million in cash...hmm, wonder what the cash was hanging around for? I bet Copperfield is wishing that the ability to disappear wasn't just an illusion.

‘God breathed his warm breath down on us’ (Family of autistic teen lost in woods for 4 days thankful for good weather) - this is the story of the autistic teenager who spent 4 days lost in the woods and was found in good condition. Jacob had wandered away during a family picnic/hike. Jacob has the mental capacity of a 3- or 4-year-old and is not verbal. When he was found, he was hungry and thirsty, but otherwise okay. The weather was chilly the day he got lost, but grew warmer on the successive days, providing the best weather conditions possible for a lost child.

Storms, tornadoes hit Southeast, Plains; 5 dead (3 die in Michigan, baby found alive under debris; 2 killed earlier in Missouri) - what caught my attention with this article was not the tragedy (and the lost lives are truly a tragedy), but the miracle of the baby who survived. According to the story: In Millington Township, a year-old baby in a crib escaped injury after apparently being tossed about 40 feet by a tornado that destroyed a home early Friday, fire officials said. I just can't fathom how something as destructive as a tornado can leave behind such miracles.

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This week has been a week of cool kid moments for my daughter.

On Sunday when we were in church, she made up a questionnaire for her friend. All of the questions were to do with Jesus and how he was our Savior and was sent to protect us and save us. I was so touched. I meant to keep it so I could share it, but I can't find it.

Then, when she found out about Jonathan being in the hospital, she wrote out a lovely prayer to God on Jonathan's behalf. Here is what she wrote (phonetic spellings included):

Dear Lord. thank you for today. i pray for jonhathin gets heald soon. i pray that they pray for him. I pray for magy and Fido (past pets). I pray for Jack, Mommy, Daddy and me. I pray for Jonhthen so bad.

My daughters' prayers mean so very much to me. I am so very blessed to have such a loving young girl.

Then tonight, she finished a jug of milk. She wanted to crush it like I do, but she was leaning on it and nothing was happening. She told me I must be strong. I told her she needed to take the lid off. I asked her if she knew why she had to take the lid off. Without batting an eye, she said because the lid trapped the air inside and so it couldn't be pushed out. Hey...she's only 7...how did she know that? Did I teach her that? I love moments like that! Now she is putting it on the floor and flopping down on the milk jug to make the air rush out and the top pop off. Ahh...the simple joys of the young!

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This is a beautiful song and the video is beautiful too. For more information about the song and the video, go visit Rocks in My Dryer which is where I ran across this gem. The music and the video exhibit the contest of peace which is what the song is all about.

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This weekend I moaned and groaned about what a bad day we had with our yard sale. The mist, the lack of customers, the fact that I made $1.50. I also told you I had words with God. After all, he knows we are strapped and we are trying to do our best to get ourselves through this difficult time, why did he allow this to happen? Well, now I know why. Let me lead you through the steps of what the last few days has brought:

1. When the yardsale didn't go well, I found my mind turning to other ways to make money. I thought about the approximately 350 books I had in my eBay inventory. Some I have had for a couple of years and haven't been able to sell. But I thought if I lowered the price and offered them to a different audience, I could probably sell a lot of them and make some money. So Sunday, I went through my books. I set aside 12 boxes to take to a local bookseller that purchases used books. The rest I typed out into a list, alphabetized and posted on my blog and on my website.

Continue reading "God Knows Best" »

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One of the most awesome things about blogging is that we have the ability to reach so many people with our words and thoughts. We can touch the lives of others in ways we never suspected! We may inspire people, we may encourage people to think, we may give people an idea of how to do something they had always wondered about. Maybe we will make someone laugh or make someone cry or maybe we will make someone feel less alone by sharing our own journey.

Blog Action Day works on this principal. This years project is to have as many blogs as possible write something about the environment on October 15th. The goal is to get others thinking, talking and hopefully acting. Right now almost 8,000 bloggers are signed up to participate and it is anticipated that those blogs will reach a potential 5,000,000 people! That is incredible! So be part of something that will make a difference! Go sign up today and work on your environmental post to be published on October 15th!

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I don't know if this story has made its way into your inbox, but I think it illustrates something we should all keep in mind. May God bless you with a life full of golf balls!

When things in your life seem
almost too much to handle,
when 24 Hours in a day is not enough,
remember the mayonnaise jar
and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class
and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly,
he picked up a very large
and empty mayonnaise jar
and proceeded to fill it with golf balls

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Yesterday my husband sent me a link to an inspiring article from the Pittsburgh Post Gazette. I wanted to share it with any of you who might not have seen it. This is the story of someone who sees the end of his life coming and faces it with courage, honesty, and words of wisdom to his students.

From the article:

"If I don't seem as depressed or morose as I should be, sorry to disappoint you," said Dr. Pausch, a 46-year-old computer science professor who has incurable pancreatic cancer.

"So anyone who wants to cry or pity me can come down here and do a few of those, and then you may pity me," he said.

This man will be greatly missed by all who knew him. He has set a shining example in his life and his approach to death for all to follow.

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I have been reading Gazing at the Flag for a couple of weeks now. Today he had several posts that were written by SGT Eddie Jeffers and one post written about him. We are shoveled so many lies and half truths by our media, that I find it refreshing to read the truth from the horse's mouth as it were. To hear from the men and women fighting in Iraq about what is going on over there.

Read these words. Hear them. Support our troops.

Hope Rides Alone.

Freedom Feels Good

The Real Deal in Ramadi

Sgt Eddie Jeffers...Farewell and Walk With God

May God bless your family and comfort them during this time. May God bless all of the men and women who are fighting for us around the world and bless their families for the sacrifices they are making.

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220 years ago today the Constitution was signed! For 220 years the Constitution has been the governing law for our country. 55 delegates from 12 states signed the Constitution. Our founding fathers gave us a brilliant foundation.
Fireworks erupt on the Fourth of July, but this is the day that made us a country!

The Department of Defense has a great mini-course on the Constitution!. A great history lesson for your family this week!

Hat Tip: Gazing at the Flag. I didn't know how special today was until I read it on his blog!

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I just read a wonderful and sad post written by a soldier who has just returned from a 22 1/2 month deployment in Iraq. Of all the words we should listen to about what is going on in Iraq, it should be the words of the men and women who are there fighting it out every day.

We have become a country of media hounds. We take the short cuts to getting information and unfortunately, the main stream media that provides us with the information has a hidden agenda. The politicians that get up and spout empty words have an agenda (on both sides of the political fence). And as Troy says in his post we are more worried about our consumerism than the war against people who want us destroyed and we know more about the lives of Brad, Angelina and Brittany than we do about the men and women fighting for our country.

And how many of us truly remember 9/11? Americans don't like to remember that which hurts them, so we say the right words, but do we really allow ourselves to reexperience the horror of the day, the sadness, the anger, the patriotism? How many of us still display the flag as we did in the days following 9-11?

So please, take the time, read what Troy has to say. Reflect on it and then pass the word on. Perhaps we can turn the ripple he has made with the stone of his words into a wave that will sweep away the untruths and popularity contests and leave behind a country united and with a single purpose.

God bless Troy. God bless all the men and women in the armed services who fight to protect our freedom, our way of life and the freedom of others around the world. And God bless our President who has had to deal with difficult issues and who has not listened to the media and the opinion polls, but who has done what he believes to be in the best interest sof our country.

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I was visiting Gazing at the Flag this morning and I found this poem there. It is wonderful and I want to not lose it so that I can share it with my son, so I am posting it here. What wonderful words! Truly the pen is mightier than the sword!

IF by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

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Yesterday, I had a visit from a blogger who came to read my post about Lt. John A. Crisci, a hero who fell during 9/11. I went to visit his blog and I was very impressed. Here is what he has written on his header.

The first thing I see when I look out my window is my flag of the United States of America blowing in the breeze. Often, I will sit and gaze at the flag - great focus for thinking. These are my musings and ramblings, and, on occasion, rants... I am unapologetic in my support of our military, our country and my devotion to God. I will honor them and pay tribute to them here.

If you haven't been by to visit Gazing at the Flag in your travels of blog land, I highly recommend this site. It will stir your patriotic feelings and it is refreshing to read someone who supports our troops, our country and is unashamed of his belief in God.

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> Lt. John A. Crisci

I wrote this post last year as part of Project 2,996. I am reprinting it here.

September 11, 2001 is a day that lives in our hearts and minds. We all remember where we were that day and what we were doing. My husband had just started a new job in Canada and I was mopping floors before taking my sick child to the doctor. My husband called me with the news that the world as we knew it had changed in an instant. As deeply as this day affected Americans and indeed people around the world, the people most affected were those who lost loved ones on this day etched in our minds. As part of the 2,996 Memorial, I want to remember one of the people who left us that day.

John was a hero to his children, to his co-workers and to millions of people around the world. He put others lives before his own, and on the day the towers fell, he was doing what he believed in and what he was trained to do. John was not a man looking to make a name for himself. He was called to serve and to protect. He followed that calling willingly and with joy and conviction. I have no doubt that John now stands in Heaven, still watching over his families. John, on September 11, 2001, you and your two families became linked to the rest of us. We are sorry that your life ended when and the way it did. But we thank you for your commitment and example. You are a true hero. May God bless and keep your family safe until you can all be together again.

CNN

Legacy.com

Tribune

This is part of a huge blogging effort where one man started a movement to get bloggers involved in remembering the victims of 9/11. You can read other tributes at Project 2,996.

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I have been visiting Laane on the World for a few weeks now. I first stopped by because of a contest, but I have continued to read her posts because I find them interesting. Laane has an autistic son who has a computer that is on its last legs. Laane has been doing a variety of things to save the money to purchase her son a new computer. Well, another son decided to help out in a most unusual way.

Be sure to go check out his idea for a fundraiser and encourage him. If each reader just gives a little bit, think of what a difference we can make! Not only will we be helping a young man to help his brother, but we will be blessed ourselves with the knowledge that the money we could have spent on an ice cream cone or soda went to help someone in need.

You can also check out the update. So far $30.00 has been raised!

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Inspired by the weekly contests at The Average Girl's Guide to Being A Princess, I have decided to begin a regular post entitled Monday's Act of Random Kindness. In it I will tell whatever random acts of kindness I manage to do during the week. I am hoping this will help me to be more aware of opportunities that I have to be kind to others. I also thought it would be a great way to start my week, and hopefully yours!

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Yesterday the kids and I went to see Evan Almighty. I went with some trepidation as I had heard it wasn't that great and then there is the fact that sequels are often less than enjoyable. We had loved the movie Bruce Almighty and the Christian message that it presented. We like Steve Carell and we love animals, so we decided to give it a shot (though I was wondering how there could be a flood when God promised never again).

Well, we loved the movie. Not only did the event of the flood work, but the underlying message of "a random act of kindness" as well as the message to take care of our world made the movie fantastic! We loved the quips, the animals, and the fact that afterward, we talked about how we can do little things that make the world a brigther place. Indeed to change the whole world, we need to start with one little act at a time. And if we all do it, imagine what a great world it would be. Another movie example of this is Pay It Forward. This movie has been the springboard of the Pay It Forward Foundation and The Pay It Forward Movement.

A couple of years ago, i was the recipient of an Act of Random Kindness. My daughter and I were in the restroom and Sam's and she was asking if I was going to get a hotdog too. I told her not today as I only had enough money to get her a hot dog (she loves Sam's hotdogs), but that was okay as I wasn't really hungry. When we went to the sink to wash our hands, a lady stepped up to us. She said she couldn't help but overhear our conversation. She said she prayed daily for God to place people in her path that she could help. Today it was going to be us. She handed me 2.00 and told me to enjoy a hotdog with my daughter. Neither of us will ever forget that.

Now, I am not going to say that I have commited an act of kindness every day since. But I try to do them often. They can be things like

1. letting a person out in front of me in a line of traffic
2. letting a person with two items get ahead of me in line at the store
3. saying thank you to the cashier and calling them by name
4. not honking the horn or gesturing when someone pulls out in front of me (sometimes I have done this unwittingly and I try to give people the benefit of the doubt)
5. surprising someone with a phone call or a card or a visit
6. making a cake for a neighbor just because
7. leaving groceries at someone in need's doorstep
8. send someone an anonymous pair of tickets in the mail
9. smile at your family members
10. set a special table at home (fine dishes even if an ordinary meal)

These are just a few simple things we can do, just imagine what the world would be like if all of us focused more on doing for others instead of what we can get done for ourselves!

I would love to hear your Random Acts of Kindness!

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We are starting off our year by reading poems by 6 different poets. So far we have read the words of William Carlos Williams (none of us liked those that much) and Walt Whitman (I enjoyed and now I want to see Dead Poet's Society again). Today we read a book of Carl Sandburg's poetry. We like these best so far. First I will share a short poem that was one of his most famous. So few words...so full of imagery! The second poem is one anyone who loves or hates arithmetic will enjoy.

I hope these brighten your day!

I waited all week with anticipation of the Discovery Channel show last night regarding the potential find of The Lost Tomb of Jesus...I have been reviewing the possible implications in my mind during the week. What would it mean for my faith if they found the bones of Jesus? There is controversy over whether he physically ascended or just his spirit ascended. My personal opinion is that the ascension of Jesus was a physical one, after all, it does say in the New Testament that the disciples could touch him. So when he returned he was in human form. However,

Continue reading "Lost Tomb of Jesus? Where's the DNA?" »

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13 1/2 months ago, Woody Lander stopped breathing for 30 minutes after suffering a massive heart attack at the tender age of 2 weeks. After 30 minutes of doctors working feverishly over Woody's still body, then called his parents in to say good-bye...

Continue reading "Miracle Baby Now 14 Months Old" »

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I sit here this morning with mixed feelings wandering through my heart. What does this research mean? Statistical analysis indicates that the chances that this is the tomb of Jesus and his family is 600 to 1. This means that 599 times out of 600, this would be the tomb of Jesus. This is based on the analysis of how many other families during that time would have had the names Jesus, Mary Magdalene, Joseph, Matthew, etc in their tombs. I am staggered by this possibility...

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